1) "Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."
2)"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
3)"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."
Reflection: When you acknowledge someone, you recognize their value and importance they will feel important and feel comfortable with you. Starting the day with a "Hello" or “Good Morning”. Smiling at each and every co-workers as you pass by them by on way to the office? Or reaching out to a new acquaintance you see in a crowd. Be friendly so they feel safe and be a new friend.Which is good because then you meet new people that way which then you can figure out if you have such things in common that you didn’t think you did. Its the truth of trying to get others interested in you will take longer than trying to become interested in other people. What i like about this attribute is that in fact it says it all of how life really is which opens up your mind in thinking.
1)"Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
2)" You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
3) " It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."
Reflection: Form one's features into a pleased, kind, or amused expression, typically with the corners of the mouth turned up and the front teeth exposed. A smile is the most important thing because it is contagious if you smile at some they'll smile and feel good. it may save a life.When you give a smile to a new person you meet it means you necessarily give a bigger opening to welcome friends all around you. Actions speak louder than words is a great quote because when you do something it shows of how dedicated you were than just saying your are going to do this one thing.
2)" If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
Reflection: When you use someone’s name, it shows you see that person as an individual. When you remember it, it shows your interest in and respect for that individual. In business, knowing someone’s name can make a difference in how that person feels about you and your brand. The trouble is most of us have trouble remembering the names of people we don’t know well, and we panic. Sometimes we may even avoid someone whose name we don’t remember in order to to avoid embarrassment. We even make excuses like, ”I’m terrible at names.” Or “I have bad memory.” People who are good at remembering names probably don’t have any better memory than you do. What they are better at is working at remembering names
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves
"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems.
Reflection: When you become a good listener you a journal or diary for someone. When you show interest in a person, that person feels that he/she can trust you and never break that trust because without that trust there is nothing. Don't be selfish and brag about yourself when you listen people, they listen to you. Being a good listener is very important because for a change you're not talking about yourself you're listening to somebody else’s interest thoughts and dreams.Which is good because then you learn about somebody’s interest concern and fears which now you can be open minded because there will be something you did not know about them that will really shock you. Encouraging somebody to talk to themselves is really nice because maybe you’re the first to ever ask them to tell you their interest and fears dreams etc. which is nice because now a days people don’t ever ask somebody else’s common interest that is not theirs.
5 Active listening tips
1. stay focus
2. Really listen
3. Allow for periods of silence
4. Time to time repeat the other persons words or paraphrase them
5. Understand the motion behind the words
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.
"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
Reflection: Take interest in other peoples interest why becomes it seems you are aware of them.For example, if someone loves golf, it would be a good idea to talk about the sport and make them feel you interested in what they have to say. Just talking about yourself makes others dislike the conversation and want to end it quickly, where as showing interest and enthusiasm makes them want to continue conversation.
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.
"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." "Helping people feel important and appreciated worms magic."
Reflection:There’s a big difference between appreciating people and making them feel significant. Of course, you want to appreciate others. But even more than that, you need to make those important people in your life feel that they matter.Success both personally and professionally is hard to achieve without others who fill gaps for you and support you. There is rarely an exception to this. Think of people in your life. This rule tells me that we should not make conversations about us. We should make the person who we are talking to feel special, make them feel we are interested in only them. If we make them feel that we are not interested, then they will feel there is no point in talking to you.
1.Give her/him a specific and genuine compliment.
2. When she’s/he's explaining her/his problem to you, listen intently with offering any solutions or advice.
3. Ask about their family
4. Ask how he/she feels
5. Ask about any dreams/ goals they have
Reflection: Rules to strengthen the communication bonds, to better my personal environment and to give better impressions to my family, friends and boyfriend. At this point, the rules do not seem as a hassle to practice, now they seem as a joy that can be done with nature.
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